It doesn’t always feel exciting or glamorous when you’re laying foundations for the future. In fact, most of the time, it’s slow, uncomfortable, or downright exhausting. However, there are some subtle signs that you’re setting yourself up for something solid, even if it doesn’t look like much from the outside yet. Here’s how you know…
Things You Assume Are Personality Traits That Are Actually Trauma Responses
Some behaviours become so ingrained, they start to feel like part of your personality. However, when you’ve experienced trauma—especially early in life—those adaptations often start as survival tools, not core traits. Over the years, they get mislabelled as quirks, preferences, or just “how you are,” when they’re actually the emotional fallout of things you never…
Why A Little Bit Of Loneliness Can Actually Be Good For You Sometimes
Loneliness is usually talked about like something to be avoided at all costs. And yes, chronic loneliness can be painful, especially when it’s tied to isolation, disconnection, or emotional neglect. But not all loneliness is destructive. Sometimes, those quieter stretches—where it feels like you’re drifting slightly apart from everyone else—can lead to unexpected clarity, growth,…
Phrases People Who Had A Terrible Childhood Use To Downplay Their Experiences
People who went through tough childhoods often learn early on to minimise what they’ve experienced. Whether it was neglect, emotional abuse, instability, or the absence of safety, the language they use as adults can sound casual or even dismissive—because that’s how they’ve coped. These things might not sound like a big deal, but they often…
What Soul Exhaustion Feels Like (And Why It’s Different From Burnout)
When burnout hits, it’s usually tied to work, overwhelm, or doing too much. However, soul exhaustion is something deeper. It’s not just physical or mental tiredness—it’s an emotional weight that disconnects you from joy, meaning, and even your own sense of self. You can be getting enough sleep, taking breaks, and still feel like something…
Mindful Reminders For When You Feel Like Life Is Passing You By
Some seasons of life inevitably feel like a blur. You watch other people hit milestones, make bold changes, or seem endlessly fulfilled while you’re stuck in the same routine, wondering if you missed your cue. It’s easy to feel like life is happening without you. However, more often than not, what you need in those…
Signs You’re Chasing Peace In All The Wrong Places
It’s easy to confuse relief with peace, especially when you’ve been in survival mode for a long time. You start chasing stillness in places that only offer distraction, approval, or temporary comfort. It feels like peace in the moment, but it doesn’t last—and it rarely brings the clarity or calm you’re really craving. Here are…
Things People Who’ve Struggled With Mental Illness Since Childhood Regularly Say
When someone has lived with mental illness since childhood, their experience of the world is shaped early. Not only that, but it often echoes in the things they say, even years later. Whether it’s an underhanded comment or an offhand remark, these phrases can hold the weight of years of trying to cope, mask pain,…
The Quiet Cost Of Always Trying To Be The “Easygoing” One
When you’re the one who’s always “fine with anything,” it can feel like a badge of honour—calm, chill, drama-free. The problem is that under the surface, being the easygoing one often means shrinking your needs, swallowing your feelings, and being overly flexible to make everyone else more comfortable. Here’s what that kind of emotional labour…
Mindsets That Seem Harmless But Quietly Undermine Your Confidence
Sometimes you don’t even realise your confidence has left the building until long after it’s gone. That’s because it often fades slowly, chipped away by thoughts and beliefs that sound sensible on the surface. These mindsets are sneaky—they masquerade as humility, logic, or caution, but end up keeping you stuck, small, and second-guessing yourself. The…