We all know someone who seems to go out of their way to please everyone around them. They’re constantly agreeable, putting everyone else’s needs first, and often avoid confrontation at all costs. While this can be seen as being exceptionally kind, the truth is that being ‘too nice’ can sometimes be a sign of people-pleasing—a…
What To Do When Your Self-Care Routine Becomes Another Thing To Stress About
Self-care is supposed to be the thing that helps you feel better, right? Sadly, sometimes, it can end up feeling like just another thing to check off the list, another source of pressure. When your self-care routine starts adding stress instead of relieving it, something’s off. What started as a way to prioritise your well-being…
Why Not Having Everything Together Could Actually Be A Sign Of Growth
You know that feeling when your life seems a bit of a mess? When your flat looks like a tornado hit it, your diary is bursting with scribbles, and you’ve just realised you’ve worn two different socks all day? Relax. The chaos around you might actually be evidence that you’re growing as a person. We’ve…
How To Stop Using Stress As A Motivator Without Losing Your Drive
Have you ever noticed how productive you become the night before a deadline? Or how you suddenly find the energy to clean your entire flat when your parents announce they’re popping round? Many of us have come to rely on stress as our primary motivator—the adrenaline rush that finally gets us moving. While stress can…
These So-Called ‘Affirmations’ Are Perfect Examples Of Toxic Positivity
We’ve all seen those pastel-coloured Instagram squares with swirly fonts proclaiming that “everything happens for a reason” or “just choose happiness.” While positive affirmations can be helpful tools for a lot of people, there’s a fine line between healthy optimism and what psychologists call toxic positivity—the excessive and ineffective overgeneralisation of a happy, positive state…
How To Find Joy In The Everyday ‘Boring’ Stuff (And Why It Matters)
As much as it depresses us to admit, life isn’t always full of grand adventures. In fact, a lot of our time is spent doing what might seem like “boring” stuff: the laundry, the dishes, commuting, paying bills, grocery shopping. It’s easy to overlook these mundane tasks and wish we could be doing something more…
Things People Who’ve Never Had A Real Break Think Are Normal
For a lot of people, the idea of truly stepping away from work or responsibilities feels more like a luxury than a necessity. If you’ve never had a real break—a proper time to rest, recharge, and truly switch off—you might think certain things are just a normal part of life. But the truth is, living…
How To Get Out Of An Overthinking Loop When You’re Stuck
We’ve all found ourselves caught in that never-ending loop of thoughts that seems to spiral with no end in sight at some point. Overthinking can feel like your brain is stuck on repeat, running through the same scenarios, decisions, or worries over and over. It’s exhausting, isn’t it? And the worst part is that the…
Why You Don’t Need To ‘Fix’ Your Anxiety (And What To Do Instead)
Anxiety is something most of us will experience at some point in our lives, whether it’s a moment of panic before a big presentation or the low, persistent hum of worry that can last for days. In fact, according to a survey from Mind UK, 37.1% of women and 29.9% of men reported high levels…
Ways To Start Practising Gratitude Without Feeling Fake
When done right, gratitude can improve your mood, enhance your relationships, and even have positive effects on your physical health. The problem is that often time, it ends up feeling… a bit forced. When you’re told to “count your blessings” or “be thankful” in the middle of a rough day, it can feel like you’re…