Anxiety has a lot of symptoms that are common in anyone who suffers from it.
However, men often experience this mental health condition in unique ways, and the people around them might not immediately realise they’re struggling because of it. However, given that 29.3% of men reported experiencing high levels of anxiety in 2022/2023 (via Mental Health Foundation), it’s clear we should be paying more attention to the men in our lives. Here are some behaviours that might mean a man’s anxiety is at its height.
1. They become more irritable than usual.
Men may find themselves snapping at people or feeling easily annoyed, which isn’t just stress. Increased irritability can be a sign of underlying anxiety. If small things set them off more than they used to, it’s worth paying attention. Recognising this can help address the root cause rather than just managing the anger. Techniques like exercise or mindfulness can help manage mood and reduce irritability.
2. They work excessively.
Burying themselves in work might seem productive, but it can be a way to avoid anxious thoughts. Overworking can lead to burnout and doesn’t address what’s really bothering them. Taking a step back to evaluate why they’re pushing themselves so hard is important. Setting boundaries between work and personal time can improve mental health. Allocating time for relaxation and activities outside of work can help reduce anxiety.
3. They experience unexplained muscle tension.
Constantly tight muscles, aches, or frequent headaches can be physical manifestations of anxiety. If there’s ongoing physical discomfort without a clear cause, anxiety might be the culprit. Paying attention to the body’s signals is important. Incorporating relaxation techniques like stretching, yoga, or deep breathing exercises into their routine can alleviate tension. Consulting a healthcare professional can also help rule out other causes.
4. They increase alcohol consumption.
Reaching for a drink to unwind can quickly become a habit that’s hard to break. Increased alcohol consumption can mask anxiety temporarily, but often makes it worse in the long run. Being honest about drinking habits is crucial. Cutting back and finding healthier ways to relax, such as engaging in hobbies or physical activities, can be beneficial. If reducing alcohol is challenging, seeking support might be necessary.
5. They have trouble sleeping.
Difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep isn’t just an inconvenience. Insomnia can be a sign that anxiety is keeping their mind racing at night. Good sleep is vital for mental health. Establishing a calming bedtime routine and limiting screen time before bed can improve sleep quality. If sleep problems persist, consulting a professional for guidance might be helpful.
6. They avoid social situations.
Declining invitations or finding excuses to stay home can indicate social anxiety. Isolation might feel safer but can exacerbate feelings of loneliness and anxiety. Pushing themselves to engage socially, even in small ways, can help break this pattern. Starting with activities they’re comfortable with and gradually expanding their social circle can improve mood and reduce anxiety.
7. They can’t seem to relax.
Always being on edge and finding it hard to unwind could be due to anxiety. Constant restlessness isn’t just being energetic; it’s a sign that the mind isn’t at ease. Incorporating relaxation techniques into their day, such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or spending time in nature, can help. Allocating time for relaxation is not a luxury; it’s necessary for mental well-being.
8. They become indecisive or overthink decisions.
Struggling to make choices, even simple ones, can be a hidden sign of anxiety. Overanalysing every option can leave them feeling stuck. Recognising when they’re overthinking and trying to trust their instincts more can help. Setting a time limit for decisions can also be beneficial. Remembering that not every choice has to be perfect can reduce stress.
9. They strive for perfection.
Setting unrealistically high standards can be exhausting. Perfectionism often stems from anxiety about making mistakes or not being good enough. Accepting that perfection isn’t attainable and that doing their best is enough can alleviate pressure. Allowing themselves to make mistakes and learn from them can reduce stress and improve well-being.
10. They feel constantly tired.
Feeling fatigued despite adequate sleep can result from anxiety draining their energy. Mental strain can be just as tiring as physical exertion. Taking time to rest and recharge, not just physically but mentally, is important. Engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation can help replenish energy levels. If fatigue persists, consulting a healthcare professional might be necessary.
11. They procrastinate more than usual.
Putting off tasks can be a way to avoid anxiety associated with them. Procrastination can increase stress in the long run. Breaking the big things on their to-do list into smaller, manageable steps can make them less overwhelming. Taking action can reduce anxiety and improve productivity. Holding themselves accountable or asking for support from other people can help them stay on track.
12. They experience digestive issues.
Stomach problems like nausea, cramps, or irritable bowels can be linked to anxiety. If medical tests don’t reveal a cause, stress might be affecting their gut. Paying attention to diet and managing stress can alleviate these symptoms. Techniques like mindful eating and relaxation exercises can be beneficial. Persistent digestive issues shouldn’t be ignored; seeking medical advice is important.
13. They constantly worry about the future.
Frequent thoughts about what might go wrong can be a sign of anxiety. Excessive worrying doesn’t prevent problems; it only adds to stress. Focusing on what they can control and trying to stay grounded in the present can help. Practising mindfulness and gratitude can reduce unnecessary worries. If worrying interferes with daily life, reaching out to a professional for support might be helpful.
