Masking doesn’t always mean pretending to be someone else. Instead, it comes out in the things that are said that sound perfectly fine on the outside, while hiding a completely different experience underneath. These phrases might seem casual or even upbeat, but for neurodivergent people, they’re often subtle signs that something’s not as okay as…
Why Being Busy Isn’t A Badge Of Honour—And What To Do Instead
Somewhere along the way, “busy” became shorthand for important, driven, successful. We learned to wear packed schedules and burnout as signs we were doing life right. The thing is, always being busy doesn’t mean you’re thriving—it often just means you’re stretched too thin to notice what matters. The grind gets praised, but the cost gets…
Why You Keep Feeling Like The Problem (Even When You’re Not)
There’s nothing worse than constantly feeling like you’re doing something wrong in life, no matter the situation. It’s not always easy to explain. You walk away from conversations feeling like you said the wrong thing. You replay moments in your head, wondering if you came off too blunt, too emotional, too awkward. Even when nothing…
The Quiet Cost Of Always Trying To Be Easier To Love
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be loved—that’s just human. However, when that turns into constantly adjusting who you are, toning things down, or avoiding anything that might make someone uncomfortable, you start losing parts of yourself in the process. The need to be easy, agreeable, or low-maintenance might feel safe at first, but it…
How To Actually Stay Present When Your Brain Won’t Stop Racing
We all want to feel more present, but when your brain’s darting from one thought to another like it’s had five coffees, that’s easier said than done. It’s not about achieving perfect stillness or mastering some zen state. It’s about finding real, useful ways to ground yourself when your mind is busy spiralling. These aren’t…
The Secret to Saying No Without Feeling Like You’re Letting People Down
For a lot of people, saying no feels a whole lot harder than it should. You worry you’ll upset someone, damage the relationship, or come across as selfish, even when you’re just trying to protect your peace. However, the ability to say no isn’t cold or unkind—it’s a form of clarity. It helps you show…
How To Stop Comparing Your Life To Other People’s Instagram Feeds
Instagram can turn even the best of us into accidental critics of our own lives. One minute you’re scrolling casually, and the next you’re questioning your pace, your body, your career, or your home. It’s not always obvious that this is what’s happening, but it’s pretty common thanks to perfect lighting, curated captions, and endless…
How To Stop Apologising For Your Sensitivity, Passion, Or Depth
There’s nothing wrong with feeling things deeply, but if you’ve ever been called “too sensitive” or made to feel like your intensity is inconvenient, you’ve probably learned to shrink yourself just to fit in. That habit becomes automatic—apologising when you care too much, soften too quickly, or get emotional when other people don’t. The thing…
Are You Healing or Just Distracting Yourself? How To Tell The Difference
Healing can be quiet, messy, and surprisingly uncomfortable, but because sitting with your pain is hard, it’s easy to mistake distraction for progress. Life stays busy, routines keep moving, and on the surface, things look better, but the unresolved stuff doesn’t disappear just because you’ve stopped thinking about it. There’s a fine line between genuinely…
Things Insecure People Say To Hide Their Low Confidence Levels
Not everyone who seems self-assured actually feels that way. Insecurity often wears a mask—one built out of quick deflections, casual humour, or throwaway comments that keep people from seeing what’s really going on underneath. These phrases might not sound dramatic, but they’re often used to steer attention away from vulnerability. They’re little habits of speech…